Megan bought entire drawer filled with vibrators
Birmingham University student, Megan Ward, 20, fears she’ll never achieve satisfaction after spending more than three years trying and failing to give herself an orgasm. Megan who studies politics at the University of Birmingham, has anorgasmia - the persistent inability to achieve an orgasm - and despite trying every day with various sex toys, she is continually unsatisfied.
Since her diagnosis, Megan has tried countless therapy sessions and bought an entire drawer filled of vibrators in a bid to cure her 'sex disorder' - yet she is still unable to climax. Megan initially wrote about her plight for student newspaper The Tab a year ago. But after receiving persistent online abuse, she has gone public once more in a column entitled 'I’m Megan, and I STILL can’t orgasm'.
While her friends and family have praised her for her openness on the subject, Megan insists she is more than happy to raise awareness - particularly because as many as one in five women are thought to suffer from the same problem. In her latest column, Megan said she has been desperately trying all the suggestions she has received since initially revealing her problem - but none have culminated in that all-important climax.
She said: ‘I now own ten different kinds of vibrators, among many other sex toys which would make your grandma’s eyes bleed. ‘While I love them all in the same way most people love their pets - and admittedly the Magic Wand has changed my life - they still don’t produce the Big O from me.
‘My vagina, she tries, bless her, but it’s just not something she can do.’ Even though none of the advice she received after revealing her problem to the world worked, Megan insists she’s still glad she highlighted her plight.
She said that before publishing the story, she was worried that people would think she was weird or a bit pathetic. Instead, she insists that the response she got from people was overwhelmingly positive.
She said: ‘I got messages from people I had spoken to maybe once all congratulating me. ‘Some of my best friends shared the piece and wrote publicly they were proud of me. Strangers stalked me down on Facebook - some in a creepy way - but others to say thank you for writing the piece.’
As for the reaction from her friends, she says nothing has changed at all. Megan said: ‘I got to pre-drinks the night it was published, only for two of my best friends to make orgasm jokes the minute I walked in the room.
‘But as with all good friendships, it became something they would wind me up about, but overall, it didn’t change a thing.’ She added that her parents had been amazing too - and had been proud of her, despite her describing her self-pleasuring habits.
This isn’t to say she didn’t receive negative comments too, however - and some of her peers even used her article about anorgasmia to make cheap shots at her in arguments about student elections.
One girl wrote on Facebook: ‘If politics was so important to you, you’d write less articles about your vagina and more about what really matters.’ Given that Megan had also written articles about LGBT rights, mental health, the monarchy and feminism she didn’t think that was entirely fair - but the comment made her feel awful nonetheless.
She said: ‘I wrote about my vagina and so apparently that meant any opinion I had on anything else didn’t matter. ‘I was so proud of my article, but I didn’t want to be the Orgasm Girl.
‘And yet, now that is all some people see me as.’ Megan also revealed that there had been a flurry of creepy messages in her inbox. She said: ‘I don’t know why men felt the need to track me down and proposition me, but apparently they did. ‘One gem was the guy who tracked me down to say I just hadn’t met the right man yet, but since I’m not too bad looking I’ll be OK.
‘He missed the whole point of the article - as well as insulting my boyfriend and knocking my self-esteem in the process.’ She said the worst of the lot were those who thought she was merely writing the article for attention.
In fact, Megan wrote it because she felt it important that young people should be able to talk publicly about sexual problems - which could normalise issues and help other people. On top of that, she also said part if her motivation was the fact that the male orgasm always seems to be a priority over the female orgasm.
Megan said she was still 'amazed' at the amount of people who fake orgasms - and she doesn’t want anyone else feeling ashamed or embarrassed or alone, as she did. Sex expert Annabelle Knight, from Lovehony, said: 'Anorgasmia is a very real thing and it's very rarely a physiological complaint.
'It can be medical - like if a woman has a small clitoris or a smaller number of nerves down there - but it's normally a mental condition, like when men have erectile dysfunction. 'Diet can play a huge part, but stress is often a huge factor too. Most women will deal with it at some point in their lives.
'I see more and more women in their early twenties complaining about anorgasmia.'