Lesbian Mother Accused Of Abducting Daughter She Raised With Wife Elopes With Sperm Donor Lover
lesbian mother has been accused of abducting the daughter she raised
with her wife and eloping with a man. Lauren Etchells fled from
Canada to Britain with Marco van der Merwe.
and wife Tasha Brown are said to have asked him for help conceiving a
second child after they had daughter Kaydance with an online sperm
couple seperated and teacher Miss Etchells went on to have the baby
with IT expert Mr van der Merwe and subsequently declared that they
and Marco fled with both children against a court order after
allegedly lying to passport officials. An Interpol hunt is now underway for the fugitive mother.
to the Mail, Miss Brown spoke of her heartbreak, saying she had been
‘erased’ from Kaydance’s life overnight.
added: ‘I was such a fool. I was played by Lauren. I welcomed Marco
into our life because I thought he was no threat to our marriage and
it would help us have more children as we had always planned.
last time I saw my daughter I put her in her car seat, gave her
cuddles and a kiss, and waved her away thinking I would be seeing her
again in a few days.’
lesbian couple met online and after their first date in February 2008
they married in 2012.
Brown, 43, said the couple had always wanted children and agreed that
her wife would carry them because she was younger. Kaydance was born
in 2014 after they found a sperm donor online.
when they came to try for a second child, the original donor no
longer wanted to help because he had a new girlfriend who was
uncomfortable with the idea.
relationship took a down turn when they invited Mr van der Merwe, an
old school friend of Miss Etchells, to be a sperm donor and he stayed
with them during the summer of 2015.
started to be this weirdness,’ said Miss Brown.
started being short with me and Marco was carrying Kaydance around
and not acknowledging me as the mother. I knew something wasn’t
right. Soon afterwards we separated. I was shocked and crushed.’
few months, as the couple attended a ‘parenting after separation’
class, Miss Etchells broke the news that she was engaged to Mr van
der Merwe and was expecting his child. Miss Brown said: ‘That was
my baby. That was the whole reason Marco was there.’
said: ‘I’m not a man-hating lesbian. I wanted the best for
Kaydance. But I was still her mother too.’ She saw the new baby, a
boy called Marcus, soon after he was born. ‘It was a shock to see
him,’ she said. ‘What my life was supposed to be flashed in front
of me. Everything that I thought I knew had been snatched away.’
matters worse, Miss Brown had previously allowed to have her name
temporarily removed from Kaydance’s birth certificate after the
women made plans to teach in Qatar, where homosexuality is illegal.
that Miss Etchells might run away with the child after their split,
she obtained a court order in April preventing her and Kaydance
leaving Canada. Miss Etchells was ordered to surrender her British
and Canadian passports.
the mother is said to have applied secretly for a new passport in
defiance of the court order.
neighbour of the family later told her that they’d travelled to see
relatives in the UK. A warrant has been issued for the arrest of Miss
Etchells in Canada, and the police have alerted Interpol.
Mr van der Merwe denied he had agreed to be a sperm donor. He said he
had no idea where Miss Etchells was and had no contact with her after
she broke off communication with him.
said she told him she was able to travel when they boarded the flight
to the UK together.
van der Merwe claims he had been in contact with Canadian police and
told them everything he knew. In a separate email to a Canadian
newspaper, he said: ‘I did co-operate with the authorities, they
just didn’t want to believe what I had to say.’